I love being able to have conversations too. Especially since half the time I'm not even focused on "getting better," I just feel lucky to be there that day getting to spend time with cool folks. I really admire the people who can sustain their motivation with just wanting to get better, but for me it's more often the cool people and trying something fun/silly/dumb that makes me able to "just keep showing up."

Being able to help me without making me feel stupid is a big one! There are lots of opportunities to be humble which is cool, but I learn so much more when I can salvage some confidence at the same time. 

It's always helpful to me when people have a submission like 80% there but they pause so I can try to escape. That way it's a lot less likely that I get hurt (or hurt my training partner) if I try to wiggle out of something the wrong way. And because it's funny to pause and appreciate the moment where my training partner could break/hurt/choke me lol but we just laugh instead.

I definitely have to say "I don't know what to do from here" more often! 

I really like the idea of give and take. I feel really grateful when I am learning and receiving so much from my training partners, and it's such a gift to have so many folks willing to help this way. But I will never forget the times and the people that I feel like I was able to give back to as well. I know so little, so even if it's just something I did unintentionally (or maybe sometimes people are just being nice lol), it feels really special and really sticks with me.