This is a very good question!
As a Jiu Jitsu instructor, I see this often, and the key is understanding NOT pressure. When a child or student doesn’t want to train, start by asking WHY. Fatigue, frustration, or a drop in confidence are usually the real reasons, not a lack of interest.
Open communication with coaches and instructors is very important. Sharing concerns early allows us to adjust training, provide support, and keep the experience positive.
Shift the focus away from winning or being good and toward effort, consistency, and small improvements. Giving one simple goal per class helps success feel achievable.
Private lessons are a powerful tool as well. They offer individual attention, build confidence, and allow students to progress at their own pace, often reigniting motivation.
Encourage ownership and social connection, and above all keep Jiu Jitsu positive. When students feel safe, supported, and capable, motivation naturally follows.
Commented on New Years Resolutions With 2026 here,...
03 Jan 11:59
As a Jiu Jitsu instructor, I’ve never been big on New Year’s resolutions, but I strongly believe in setting clear goals as part of continuous growth and improvement. Progress in Jiu Jitsu doesn’t come from a calendar date, it comes from consistent effort and reflection.
This year, I’m making a conscious effort to connect with each team member individually and to be more available for my students. Building those relationships is just as important as what happens during training.
From a Jiu Jitsu perspective, I’m also focused on refining my own teaching and understanding of the art. I’m currently developing instructional systems centered around specific topics, designed to simplify learning and create clearer pathways for progress. Those will be released later this year, and my goal is for them to add real value to our students’ development on and off the mats.